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Old 02-16-2016, 06:39 AM
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This is my first post and I was looking some advice and guidance on potty training. I have tried to train my girls (they are nearly 3) a few times but they show no interest and it ends up in a battle between them and myself. I was wanting to leave the training for another few months but I have been getting pressure from some family that they need trained now and I have read some blogs which talked about potty training under 2's and I am beginning to feel like a failure. I am not sure what to do next. any advice welcomed.
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Old 02-16-2016, 01:30 PM
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Hi Susan and once again, welcome.

As I'm sure you already know, every child is different and I believe every potty training experience will be different.

If your girls are not showing signs of readiness to potty train then don't push it. I understand the pressure you might feel from the stories of others who have potty trained earlier than 2 or 3, or you may even have heard that girls train faster and earlier than boys. My daughter wasn't potty trained till well after her fourth birthday.

You're only a failure at potty training if they're grown adults and still don't use the potty successfully (I'm joking, but also trying to put things in perspective).
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My boy was 3.5 before we had any success with toilet training. I too felt guilty about it. when I tried earlier him and I just got annoyed with each other. he was over four before we really had any success with poos. But he was the one who decided that he could work for a train if he did poos in toilet(he used to do them when asleep). he announced this fact really loudly in a toy shop one day. It was similar with over night he decided to try and was dry almost from the first night and the mishaps normally coincided with an earthquake which were common at that time.

need to go so I'll post abput daughter later.
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Don't feel like a failure, they'll get it and who cares if it's during an "acceptable" age for everyone else.

I put underwear on my kids and didn't go anywhere for about a week. Took them potty every hour or so, and talked about it a lot! I used m&m's, but also stickers and lollipops when my daughter needed a little more motivation. My son trained in about a week, my daughter took a few months. I also went to train my daughter at 2.5 yrs old (when I trained my son), and she was just clearly not ready, so I waited a few months and she started wanting to go on her own closer to 3.
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Thanks everyone for your kinds words and making me feel like less of a failure. I am going to put of potty training for a while as I don't need the additional pressure within my life.
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Thanks everyone for your kinds words and making me feel like less of a failure. I am going to put of potty training for a while as I don't need the additional pressure within my life.
Good idea. It worked for us.
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I have definitely had my struggles with potty training! We had one train at age 2. The majority of them were 3 and a few even at age 4.

One thing to make sure to rule out is any health issues. We had some that once we treated for a weak bladder, they were trained within two weeks. Another had to see the chiropractor before she was trained.
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I had relaxed slightly over potty training and keeping the girls in nappies but today when I went into a store to buy nappies, the shop assistant said in a really negative way and all over the store ' are your girls not too old to be in nappies'. I was so embarrassed and it has knocked my confidence.
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I had relaxed slightly over potty training and keeping the girls in nappies but today when I went into a store to buy nappies, the shop assistant said in a really negative way and all over the store ' are your girls not too old to be in nappies'. I was so embarrassed and it has knocked my confidence.
you said your girls are nearly 3 I know very few under threes that are completely toilet trained over night by 3.
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I had relaxed slightly over potty training and keeping the girls in nappies but today when I went into a store to buy nappies, the shop assistant said in a really negative way and all over the store ' are your girls not too old to be in nappies'. I was so embarrassed and it has knocked my confidence.
That's weird, 3 is an average age to potty train here.
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