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Old 12-14-2017, 02:23 PM
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Question 7yr old boy misbehaving in school. Help!

My 7 year old in 1st Grade has been misbehaving a while and they put him in TDT (Therapeutic Day Treatment) counseling. That's where a counselor checks on him periodically throughout the day and he spends some time with him also to help him to think about decisions he is making,etc.

They have the color behavior chart in class and the children start on green. If they do well they clip their clothespin up to pink, then purple if they are very good. If they are acting up they clip down to orange, yellow, then red. (You'd think it'd go yellow, orange, red. But anyways...)
He's rarely on green. He's sometimes on orange which is "Think about it".
He's often on yellow which is called "Teacher's choice". Sometimes red. How can I motivate him to do better and pay attention and care about school?
More discipline? More positive encouragement?
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Old 12-15-2017, 01:41 PM
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Hi there,

I'm a retired teacher, and my observation is that when kids misbehave in school there is usually a reason for it. Could it be:-

1) He is trying to draw attention to himself? Some kids clown around because they want to be noticed or curry favour with their classmates. If that's the case, then a few stern words may be needed.
2) He is uneasy with himself about something. You may need to do a bit of observation/probing here. It could be something at school, at home, or in his wider circle of friends. But if something is bugging him, then it may be finding an outlet in his behaviour at school. Get to the bottom of what is troubling him, and you may be able to solve the problem.
3) It may be simply that school is a new experience for him, and he hasn't yet quite come to terms with it. School life necessarily imposes a new set of disciplines on kids, and it may take some children a while to adjust to the new demands.

Have you spoken to his teacher and his school counsellor? Maybe between the three of you, you will be able to come to a settled view of what the problem is, and how to handle it.

Hope this helps in some way. God bless.
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Old 12-15-2017, 04:03 PM
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That makes sense. I have talked to the teachers. He seems to progress slowly. He's an outgoing social kid. I'm a full time single dad of just him. We're living at home with my parents and my brother and his children. We get along fairly well but butt heads here and there. I don't think it's the best environment due to too many people in the house. I'm thinking that could be affecting him. He sees me kind of stressed and unhappy with not much of a career and not much help from the family. We go to outpatient counseling and she thinks he doesn't need it much. But he seems to want to do his own thing and seems bored in class and tries to get attention. I'm hoping he'll begin to improve more. Your advice does help. I'm going to dig and try to figure out what's going on with him. Thank you so much.
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Old 12-16-2017, 01:06 PM
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I think many 7 yr old boys would have trouble sitting still all day everyday . They may act out because of it or just get in trouble for being too active.
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