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Old 03-23-2013, 02:11 AM
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I understand I am a little late to this post but I don't understand what you mean really. and you wrote men...do you want only men to answer? lol I guess I feel safe
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I understand I am a little late to this post but I don't understand what you mean really. and you wrote men...do you want only men to answer? lol I guess I feel safe
Lots of us ladies posted our thoughts , so feel free to do the same Sarah
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Good points... in my thinking, my retreats are small, so that those kinds of relationships can be developed - and they are retreats because the guys I'm targeting may not live in my area (or I in theirs), so this way we can come together specifically to establish those kinds of relationships. Technology today allows for a great means of connection and accountability after the event. I appreciate your input...
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Good points... in my thinking, my retreats are small, so that those kinds of relationships can be developed - and they are retreats because the guys I'm targeting may not live in my area (or I in theirs), so this way we can come together specifically to establish those kinds of relationships. Technology today allows for a great means of connection and accountability after the event. I appreciate your input...
Pls let me know when you are having the next one - my dh would love to attend. He will be deployed for a yr but upon his return.

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I have been blessed with a husband who truly loves me the way that Christ loved the Church.

I have two areas, though, in which I feel VERY unsafe. And btw - my husband has given me permission to share.

1. He was addicted to porn for many years before we married. There is a lot of residual habits that are very hard to deal with.

2. He is horrible to my children (his step-children) - just the ones living at home that is. He is cold and indifferent, angry and withdrawn. When we first got married seven years ago, he was awesome with them for the first two years. Then things went downhill when money became a problem.

We've talked extensively about it and realize that both problems stem from his childhood with a father that had nothing to do with him and a family of five sisters.

Thanks for opening this up, Carey! It's been a heavy burden lately.

And sorry, my family in Christ, if it's all a little too personal.
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1. He was addicted to porn for many years before we married. There is a lot of residual habits that are very hard to deal with.
Definitely an area where it's understandable and common for a wife to feel "unsafe." I'm sure he understands this too, though some men over time may label a wife's concerns in this area to be "unforgiveness." I disagree with that though... men need to see it as the kind of weakness and betrayal that it really is... and give their wife time as they work hard at building trust.

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2. He is horrible to my children (his step-children) - just the ones living at home that is. He is cold and indifferent, angry and withdrawn. When we first got married seven years ago, he was awesome with them for the first two years. Then things went downhill when money became a problem.
I'm glad you're talking about this issue. It's got to be a comfortable subject between the two of you... and one you're making progress on for the sake of the kids. I'd suggest you get connected with someone who can help you begin making progress in this area sooner rather than later. The kids need more...

And no... not too personal at all! That's what the body is for!
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I'm glad you're talking about this issue. It's got to be a comfortable subject between the two of you... and one you're making progress on for the sake of the kids. I'd suggest you get connected with someone who can help you begin making progress in this area sooner rather than later. The kids need more...
Thanks, Carey!
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