Well, I'm a parent with grown children, (ours are currently 32 and 35) so I suppose I ought to have something to say. I should preface any remarks by saying that neither of them has made any Christian commitment, but they are both very respectful of Rita's and my Christian convictions.
We have prayed for them all their lives, and we still pray and hope that in the fullness of time they will come to share the faith in Jesus Christ that we have.
We have never concentrated on any one individual as our "preferred" life-partner for either of them, and in fact they have both gone through a number of relationships over the years. I think that it is probably misguided to try and "choose" our children's partners for them. Our experience is that they will make their own choices, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. We have always tried to allow them a degree of freedom, increasingly as they got older. Looking back from the vantage point of the present day, I wonder if we should have imposed ourselves a little more than we did in the earlier years, and I certainly regret not talking and discussing with them more. I thought that our faith would probably "rub-off" on to them as they matured. What in fact happened was that they grew-up respecting our faith, but not sharing it. I realise MM, that our parenting philosophy has been in some respects different from yours, but I totally respect you for the way in which you have, and continue to, bring up your children, even thought I don't think I could ever have done it that way myself.
Our son Jonathan, now 35, has had a number of girl-friends since his school days and the present time, but has now settled down with Melissa, a lovely girl just a little younger than him. They became engaged a few weeks ago, and are planning to marry in August 2018.
Jennifer, now 32, has also had a number of boy friends, but has now settled down with Gary. She has given us our two much-loved grandchildren, but by different relationships.
I think it inevitable that our children will make some mistakes just as we all do, as they progress through life. What I believe is important is that we love and support them through thick and thin, and continue to hold them in our prayers.
Although are children are not committed Christians, they are both capable, well-educated, respectful, and hard-working individuals. We are a close and loving family, and I pray that may always be so.
I hope my reflections and meanderings may have been of some help to you, as your children grow up, and you seek to support and guide them through every developing stage of life.
God bless you and your family,
I'm Brian, Husband of Rita, Dad to Jonathan and Jennifer, and Granddad to Jessica and Grace.