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Old 02-18-2017, 09:41 AM
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Default Difference Between Rewarding and Bribing a Child

Where does one draw the line between rewarding a child to encourage him and "bribing" a child?

I want to reward my child every now and then yet I don't want him to have a notion that all his deeds must have an exchange.
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Hi Learning to Parent,

Just noticed this post. We had a discussion on a very similar question a couple of years ago, and I thought you might like to look at it. You can find it here:-

http://www.christianparentsforum.com...ead.php?t=7387

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I usually just do verbal rewards, because I don't want it to become an expected thing. Like "thanks for behaving in the store, you can pick out a piece of candy" then every time they want a piece of candy for behaving. So instead I just thank them for behaving, especially if they struggled to do so last time.
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I usually just do verbal rewards, because I don't want it to become an expected thing. Like "thanks for behaving in the store, you can pick out a piece of candy" then every time they want a piece of candy for behaving. So instead I just thank them for behaving, especially if they struggled to do so last time.
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My personal opinion is that giving a child frequest rewards just for living life the right way sends a dangerous message to their thinkng - it shapes their motives and causes them to expect being on the rceiving end for every little thing they do.

Fast forward about 10-15 years and look what a monster has been created. They are called millenials. I work with them and see first hand how they can't face real life situations without expecting to receive something. Sadly, they lost a chance to develop godly character because they were too consumed waiting for something good to happen every time they lifted a finger.

A child needs to learn to obey and follow rules just simply because it is the right thing to do. Rewards handed out frequently are a form of bribing, and a practice parents need to stay away from. Thanks for letting me share my personal view on the topic.
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