I need help. I have several issues that keep pulling me down lately. My back pain got real bad again and I found that I have a herniated disk. Then I ran my new car into the mailbox and did a lot of damage today. My husband and I got into our first "knock down, drag out" fight in years the other day and scared the pants off of my kids. He keeps getting so angry at my 6 month old puppies for being hyper and noisy that he threatens to kill them and last but not least....My father offered to put a large down payment on a VERY large piece of land for myself and my two siblings, we all have to make the payments and split the land. My husband doesn't like the land my father chose, and the other kids do. The only place on the land he really likes, my sister asked for first. So now my husband is really angry and I may not get what I would like out of the deal. It is really causing a riff in my marriage and my family life. For once, I would like to own something, I would love to be around my family more, but he doesn't want that. He has always been a little selfish, but I have always lived with it. He says that since it is HIS money that is paying for it, he either gets what he wants, or I can go live there alone. HIS MONEY? I thought that we were married but lately everything is his because I haven't worked much. I have prayed and prayed and I don't know what else to do. Thank you for your prayers.

I will be praying for you. I am so sorry that you are having a rough time. Your husband seems to be dealing with anger and selfishness and it affects you and everyone in your family. I will be praying that the Lord will draw your husband to Himself and that He will take out the heart of flesh and put a new spirit within him. I pray that the Lord will soften his heart and cause him to see the blessings in everyday life.:hug:

Precious Jesus
We come to you today for gd4sumthnmom. We know that you are a caring and loving God. We know that you are a healer. So Lord we come to you today with humble spirits and ask that you would help her with her back. Lord also we ask that you would be with her to help fix her car thats in need of repair. Lord we ask now Lord that you would bring peace into this family Lord because we know that you are a GOD of PEACE please Lord! Lord we know that you can tell the waves to be still and they will obey. We ask that you would bring peace into their marriage Lord. Theres a spirit there of satan and you said in your Word that if we have faith the grain of a mustard see we can tell the mountain to be removed and it will be removed. So we are telling satan to remove his spirit from this household in the Name of Jesus. Because we know that in your name there is power. Lord allow this marriage to become as one and not two. Because you said in your Word a house that is divided can not stand. Allow them to counseling Lord. Holy Spirit give them guidance on this property Lord. Because we know that you are rich in house and land. Lord you also say in your Word. All things work together for the good. Allow everything to be worked out in Your Wonderful Name. This we ask in Jesus Name Amen Amen.

:hug: I am sorry! I will be praying!

Praying for you sweetie. :hug:

Yes Father, we do thank You for healing, we do thank You Lord that Your hand is upon gd4sumthnmom and her family. I touch in agreement with the rest of my sisters in Christ and ask Your will be done. Father I lift up her husband to You and I pray Father for a heart of repentance. I pray right now Lord Jesus and ask You to bring such an awareness of Your holiness and conviction come on this man. We do take authority over every power of wickedness and we command it in the name of Jesus to leave this house hold. Father we ask that You flood that house with unity and oneness in You. I pray Father this husband will learn to pick up his cross and die to himself...I lift up the children to You Father and I pray right now for supernatural peace to come and rest on their hearts...Yes Lord, Arise OH God and cause the enemy to scatter in the Mighty name of Jesus. We plead Your precious blood Jesus over that home and we thank You for a turn around in this home...Your Will Be DONE LORD, YOUR KINGDOM COME IN THIS HOME LORD, YES YOUR POWER, YOUR HOLINESS,& YOUR LOVE JESUS and I thank YOU THAT IT IS SO IN JESUS' MIGHTY NAME...

Please share the testimony because one is coming... PRAISE BE TO GOD...Amen

Thank you all so much, just an update. Things are a little better. He has been much more understanding lately...especially since I had a really bad day and ran into the mailbox with my new car....And he didn't yell at me!

I try to only let the dogs out to run before he gets home or after he leaves lately, working with them to try to calm them down...by the time he gets home, they are tired and good.

It will take time, and things are only going to get harder but I know that if I keep praying, we will be ok. I just worry about the kids when they see and hear our yelling and pushing.

Thank you again!

Just remember it takes two to fight. If you refuse to argue with him in front of the kids maybe he will get the point. Or if at all possible tell him you can discuss later when the kids are in bed but that you refuse to put the kids in the middle of your marital problems. Without someone else participating in the fight he will hopefully find something else to do. If its not safe (you mention pushing:(), take the kids out to dinner, to a friends house for a couple hours, or the park, whatever you can do to get away so he can calm down.

Another thing I just want to mention is that even though your DH may be unreasonable, if the things he is requiring of you aren't against God's word (aka getting rid of puppies or not participating in the family land purchase) God's word requires us as wives to submit, even to an unloving husband. It requires so much trust in God and sacrifice on your part but I think you will find a major change in your DH if you say you are willing to go with his call on these issues as much as it will be difficult for you. You have to trust that in the end, God will give you the desires of your heart because you are being obedient. IMHO an intact marriage is more important than pets or owning something. Please don't be offended. I am speaking out of love and a passion for Christian marriages to thrive. I hate seeing Satan get the best of us.

So sorry you are going through this. I will be praying.