I am a single mum to a wonderful little boy. during his life i have had a lot of emotional up and downs wondering when i will be able to give him a proper family and feeling guilty as he doesn't see his dad very often.
The beginning of this year i would often think "when will i get married and have more children" and every time i thought that i would have "5 years" pop into my mind.
But now i am actually happy with my life, ds isnt starved of male attention, he has his uncle and his poppa and a lot of guys my age that he loves to spend time with. He is happy and healthy and more confident than many of the other children his age at his daycare. He is very talkative and very bright.
I dont feel the need to be in a relationshiP and over the last couple of weeks have come to discover that life at the moment is pretty much perfect. Now when i think about getting married all i can think about is the fights that go with it, having to discuss ideas on how to deal with situations that come up where as now i just get on and deal with them. and the only fights i have to deal with are with ds and those are very rare as ds is a rather well behaved boy.

Am i supposed to feel like this as a single mum... every other single mum i talk to (mind you they aren't christians) are unhappy at not having a relationship or being married, and feeling guilty just like i was.

I think you are doing well by doing what your heart is telling you to do at this point in your life. If you are happy and doing what God wants you to do, there is nothing that says you have to be in a relationship. Whatever happened in the past is in the past and now you have a little boy to raise. God will bless you for doing what He wants you to do, even if that means raising your son on your own for now. I think if you stay in God's will, He will put someone in your life when the timing is right, if that is indeed His will.

Listen to God and only God...He will guide you in this journey. :hug:

I think you are doing well by doing what your heart is telling you to do at this point in your life. If you are happy and doing what God wants you to do, there is nothing that says you have to be in a relationship. Whatever happened in the past is in the past and now you have a little boy to raise. God will bless you for doing what He wants you to do, even if that means raising your son on your own for now. I think if you stay in God's will, He will put someone in your life when the timing is right, if that is indeed His will.

Listen to God and only God...He will guide you in this journey. :hug:

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:clapping: that's awesome that you feel that way mum2krash! God bless you!
whatever God has in store for you, He will bring you to it! and then He will bring you through it!

i commend you for taking on the role of both mom and dad! i don't think i could do it! :bow:

Sounds to me like you have the JOY of the LORD! Awesome!

Don't worry about feeling happy- that's God.

You're right to take joy in every day, don't make the mistake of feeling that really you should be putting your life on pause while waiting for mr. Right- just relish the joys you have in front of you, and the time you have with your son.

There will probably also be hard times, but cling to Christ and you will get through.

I guess the only other advice I have for this situation is to trust that you won't need to do anything when the time comes to enter another relationship- that the Lord will handle the planning. He's really good at that. Just be ready and have your spiritual house in order, so you will be able to go/do whatever he puts in front of you. :)

I am a single mum to a wonderful little boy. during his life i have had a lot of emotional up and downs wondering when i will be able to give him a proper family and feeling guilty as he doesn't see his dad very often.
The beginning of this year i would often think "when will i get married and have more children" and every time i thought that i would have "5 years" pop into my mind.
But now i am actually happy with my life, ds isnt starved of male attention, he has his uncle and his poppa and a lot of guys my age that he loves to spend time with. He is happy and healthy and more confident than many of the other children his age at his daycare. He is very talkative and very bright.
I dont feel the need to be in a relationshiP and over the last couple of weeks have come to discover that life at the moment is pretty much perfect. Now when i think about getting married all i can think about is the fights that go with it, having to discuss ideas on how to deal with situations that come up where as now i just get on and deal with them. and the only fights i have to deal with are with ds and those are very rare as ds is a rather well behaved boy.

Am i supposed to feel like this as a single mum... every other single mum i talk to (mind you they aren't christians) are unhappy at not having a relationship or being married, and feeling guilty just like i was.

:clapping::clapping::clapping::clapping: Awesome you feel like that! The joy of the Lord in you, thru you and all over you! :thumbs::thumbs::thumbs:

Thanks everyone.
Its all very strange to me as i have always felt guity for not trying hard enough to work things out with Kaleb's dad and felt bad for him not having a father figure.
however i will embrace this peace as i'd rather feel peace than guilt for something that is out of my control

I find that it is always easier to focus on the negative rather than the positive. WTG! Praise God