Until Rob leaves. He doesn't return until August (end of).

I have to come up with a plan as to what we are going to do with the kids in the morning! Am, I going to drive into the city, park by a train, take the bus from the house. Which would mean that the kids would now have to get up at 4:45am as it adds 45 minutes to our commute.

GRRRRR, Lord help me!!

Until Rob leaves. He doesn't return until August (end of).

I have to come up with a plan as to what we are going to do with the kids in the morning! Am, I going to drive into the city, park by a train, take the bus from the house. Which would mean that the kids would now have to get up at 4:45am as it adds 45 minutes to our commute.

GRRRRR, Lord help me!!

All the best to Rob :)

Which would be easiest for you ?

Rob driving us to the train station. Either way I would have to look for parking and in the city that can take a while.

:( so sorry you will be without Rob for so long. that stinks.

when i worked in the city, i took a bus or the ferry.
i absolutely hated driving in the city!

i will be praying that God gives you the wisdom to choose what is best for you and your family.

Would you drive the whole way in to your work and then school or is it too far??


when i worked in the city, i took a bus or the ferry.i absolutely hated driving in the city!


The Ferry ? That must have been a nice different way to get to work ?
We dont have that here :(

Do you guys have cable cars in New York ?

Praying that you can find a solution that works for your family, Phoebe. :praying::praying: :hug::hug:

Did you guys ever hear anything back about the house you were trying to purchase? Was that closer to work/school?

I think I might have missed something here but where is Rob going? I can imagine this is going to be difficult!! So sorry!

Would you drive the whole way in to your work and then school or is it too far??


when i worked in the city, i took a bus or the ferry.i absolutely hated driving in the city!


The Ferry ? That must have been a nice different way to get to work ?
We dont have that here :(

Do you guys have cable cars in New York ?

Yes, the ferry was nice, but you still have to get there via car, bus, or train. There are no cable cars in NYC.

Would you drive the whole way in to your work and then school or is it too far??


when i worked in the city, i took a bus or the ferry.i absolutely hated driving in the city!


The Ferry ? That must have been a nice different way to get to work ?
We dont have that here :(

Do you guys have cable cars in New York ?

No we do not. The ferry is great, I love it.

Praying that you can find a solution that works for your family, Phoebe. :praying::praying: :hug::hug:

Did you guys ever hear anything back about the house you were trying to purchase? Was that closer to work/school?

We are still waiting to get a closing date. The house went into short sale the day before we placed an offer and now we are waiting for the bank to get back to us and tell us that they accepted our offer.

I think I might have missed something here but where is Rob going? I can imagine this is going to be difficult!! So sorry!

He joined the Army so he is leaving for basic and then his schooling. He will be gone for 6 months

Ugh , i feel for you Phoebe , but dont worry it will work itself out .

If you get the house while Rob is away will you take it and move or will you wait for Rob to come home ?

No, I will take it and have to move into as well

No, I will take it and have to move into as well

Oh is see :( will you be off work in the Summer or do you have to work ?

Bright side if you do move to the house you wont have to leave so early in the morning ?

Yes, that would be the bright side. We would have to be on the bus at 6:00am. Much better than leaving the house at 5:30am.

I work, trying to find what I am going to do with the kids now as I don't have child care!! Lord help me!

Lean on God, Phoebe. He will get you through this. :hug::hug:

i know and I am trying no better yet I will do so.

I know that God has a plan and purpose for all of this.

He sure does :praise:

Half six does sound better then half 5 .

He sure does :praise:

Half six does sound better then half 5 .

It sure does. I am starting to get nervous. I have to keep reminding myself God is in control.

I know that it will be hard for me as we dont' go anywhere without each other. :cry::cry::cry:

It sure does. I am starting to get nervous. I have to keep reminding myself God is in control.

I know that it will be hard for me as we dont' go anywhere without each other. :cry::cry::cry:

Awe bless your heart :hug: You will do it and you will do it well :)

Will he he back for little visits in the six month period ?

Awe bless your heart :hug: You will do it and you will do it well :)

Will he he back for little visits in the six month period ?

No, none! This is 6 months of not seeing him at all. I can get letters from him when he has a chance to write but, other than that NOTHING.

No telephone calls until he is there for 3.5 months. :yikes::yikes::yikes:

So it will be hard for me but, I can do it.

No, none! This is 6 months of not seeing him at all. I can get letters from him when he has a chance to write but, other than that NOTHING.

No telephone calls until he is there for 3.5 months. :yikes::yikes::yikes:

So it will be hard for me but, I can do it.

3.5 months :yikes: Is it because they dont want any distractions ?

Yes you can do it and you will make it good for the kids either way because that is what a Momma does :) Alyssa and Isaiah will keep you strong :)

3.5 months :yikes: Is it because they dont want any distractions ?

Yes you can do it and you will make it good for the kids either way because that is what a Momma does :) Alyssa and Isaiah will keep you strong :)

Yes, they have to stay focus. The first 3.5 months they are stripping you from your civilian mentality.

Yes, they will keep me focused.

Yes, they have to stay focus. The first 3.5 months they are stripping you from your civilian mentality.

Yes, they will keep me focused.

wow that sounds intense .

wow that sounds intense .

That is what they say. He has to run 2 miles in a 17 minutes I think. Pluse so many sit ups and push ups buy such time.

It's alot.

That is what they say. He has to run 2 miles in a 17 minutes I think. Pluse so many sit ups and push ups buy such time.

It's alot.

Wow :yikes: .

What happens after six months , he comes home and then will he have to leave again ?

he comes home and goes back to civilian life and then drills one weekend a month.

But, he wants to go into it full time.

he comes home and goes back to civilian life and then drills one weekend a month.

But, he wants to go into it full time.

Oh i see , and if he wants to go in to it full time he will be away more i guess .

Will he be able to return to his job when he returns if he does not want to go in to it full time ?

Oh i see , and if he wants to go in to it full time he will be away more i guess .

Will he be able to return to his job when he returns if he does not want to go in to it full time ?

He can return to his job. I am not sure if he will travel more or not. Time will tell

You will have to be strong for your kids, Phoebe. I've never had my DH gone longer than 5 days, but kids have to go through an adjustment period too.

Does your DH read to the kids at all? If so, maybe you could video tape him reading some of their favorite stories. Then you can play the video to them when they are really missing him. I've heard of people doing that.

oh wow that is a great idea. I had not thought of that. I need him to leave me one. I am going to miss him so much! I get all teary eyed thinking about it.

I'm sure you do. I know I would be too. Do you have any type of support system in place for while he is away? Do you have someone to watch the kids if you need some time to yourself?

None other than the people from my church which is why I am praying that we close on the house soon so I can come back to staten island. My mom and sisters are so busy that it is hard to ask them.

It is just God, the kids and I .

I will be praying that God brings someone into your life that you can call on when you need some downtime or just someone to talk to. :praying:

And remember, you always have us here. :):hug:

I know that you guys are here for me. Thanks for the prayers I need it.

I will be praying that God brings someone into your life that you can call on when you need some downtime or just someone to talk to. :praying:

And remember, you always have us here. :):hug:

i will keep you all in prayer as well! :grouphug:

Thanks, I need all the prayer I can get.

This is a time where it is really me depending on God for strength.

But, I praise him because I will understand what a single parent has to deal with. So I will have a better understanding.

Thanks, I need all the prayer I can get.

This is a time where it is really me depending on God for strength.

But, I praise him because I will understand what a single parent has to deal with. So I will have a better understanding.

I'll be praying for you. I know what it's like. Last year my husband got assigned another duty (forced is more like it) and had to go for schooling, he had gone to school the year before too. On this last trip it was an 8 week class and the day he left we found out we were expecting, and it wasn't planned, which was fine, but it was even more of a shock. So it was pregnant me left with my one year old daughter. I was exhausted and found myself on my knees praying to God a lot. When he first joined and had to do the boot camp thing and the schooling and then the placement, we ended up living a state apart for over two years, but we made it, God is good.

You'll be just fine. You're a strong woman and great mother, with God on your side, now that's one powerful team!

No, none! This is 6 months of not seeing him at all. I can get letters from him when he has a chance to write but, other than that NOTHING.

No telephone calls until he is there for 3.5 months. :yikes::yikes::yikes:

So it will be hard for me but, I can do it.


And good news! I may be wrong, but, I googled it to check it, and my BIL is in the Army so I checked with him, but Army Basic Training is only 9 weeks long. At the end of the 9 weeks they have a Family Day and Graduation Day. You and your family can go to the base and see him on Family Day, he can't leave the base but you can see him, and then you can watch him graduate. Once he has graduated, he should be able to call home. He'll have to go to his MOS school, but they are allowed phone calls there..

I'll be praying for you. I know what it's like. Last year my husband got assigned another duty (forced is more like it) and had to go for schooling, he had gone to school the year before too. On this last trip it was an 8 week class and the day he left we found out we were expecting, and it wasn't planned, which was fine, but it was even more of a shock. So it was pregnant me left with my one year old daughter. I was exhausted and found myself on my knees praying to God a lot. When he first joined and had to do the boot camp thing and the schooling and then the placement, we ended up living a state apart for over two years, but we made it, God is good.

You'll be just fine. You're a strong woman and great mother, with God on your side, now that's one powerful team!

:yeahthat:

Wow! Phoebe, I had no idea this was coming up on your "plate"... for Rob to be away so long will be a difficult challenge. I will pray for you. I agree that you are both a strong woman of God and great mother. You will have many opportunities to see the Lord's love, provision, and sustaining grace while hubby is on duty.

Do they allow Skype calls (do you guys have Skype)? This has been great to "see" and talk to loved ones who are far away.

And good news! I may be wrong, but, I googled it to check it, and my BIL is in the Army so I checked with him, but Army Basic Training is only 9 weeks long. At the end of the 9 weeks they have a Family Day and Graduation Day. You and your family can go to the base and see him on Family Day, he can't leave the base but you can see him, and then you can watch him graduate. Once he has graduated, he should be able to call home. He'll have to go to his MOS school, but they are allowed phone calls there..

Oh my I pray that this is true. YAY! That help. 9 weeks is still long but it helps

:yeahthat:

Wow! Phoebe, I had no idea this was coming up on your "plate"... for Rob to be away so long will be a difficult challenge. I will pray for you. I agree that you are both a strong woman of God and great mother. You will have many opportunities to see the Lord's love, provision, and sustaining grace while hubby is on duty.

Do they allow Skype calls (do you guys have Skype)? This has been great to "see" and talk to loved ones who are far away.

No, I don't have Skype. But, I am not sure if we did if he is allowed to use it.

Thanks for the prayers.

No, I don't have Skype. But, I am not sure if we did if he is allowed to use it.

Thanks for the prayers.

Now, this is all coming from my experience which will be different because my husband is a Marine and they all do different things but this is what i'm thinking..
Boot camp is 9 weeks. This is the time period when they are not allowed phone calls or personal time. On occasion they are allowed to write letters home, I didn't get one until my husband was gone for a little over a month. He should get one phone call when he arrives at the base and it will be like this "Hello, I'm here and I'm safe"...hang up.

Sometimes and it depends on the DS they have competitions where one platoon can win a phone call home, but that is rare. You will be getting communication from the command on when your husband will graduate and when Family day is so you can prepare.

After boot camp, not sure about the Army, but I could double check, they might go to an additional weapons training and then they go to their MOS school. The school house is usually more relaxed than boot camp. They get up and PT, then have classes and then the evenings are free. This is when he can call or write, watch TV, sometimes they are allowed off the base they are at to go out. If you have or acquire Skype materials, this is when he'd be able to use it. Again, it all depends on where he is going, he may not have internet access in his room while he is there, but there is usually a place on base that has internet access, and again it's all a matter of him getting there and being able to use it, all up to his command and his schedule.

So aside from the 9 weeks in boot camp you should be able to speak with him regularly. I hope that makes you feel better.

Thanks that does make me feel better. He is going to boot camp in GA and his MOS in SC.

This is going to be a challenge for me that is for sure.

Did you come to a decision about how to travel in the mornings Pheobe ?

Yes, until we close on a house we moved into my best friends house. We are staying on the top floor and the bus is right in front of the house and we are by the ferry in 15 minutes. Praise God

Yes, until we close on a house we moved into my best friends house. We are staying on the top floor and the bus is right in front of the house and we are by the ferry in 15 minutes. Praise God

That is great and it means that you have some adult company :thumbs:

I hope you can move in to the house soon ..

We are waiting to get a closing date! Lord please move that paperwork.

Yes, adult company! YAY

We are waiting to get a closing date! Lord please move that paperwork.

Yes, adult company! YAY

I hope it it soon too .

Are you able to get more sleep now or do you still have to get up very early ?

I get up now at 5am instead of 4:40am. But, I don't have to leave the house until 6am. Before we had to leave by 5:30am

I get up now at 5am instead of 4:40am. But, I don't have to leave the house until 6am. Before we had to leave by 5:30am

Not to bad i guess .

20 more minutes of sleep and 30 minutes more to get out of the house. Not too bad.

20 more minutes of sleep and 30 minutes more to get out of the house. Not too bad.

Any extra sleep is good :)

Amen to that sister! lol

Ah! What a kind provision from the Lord, Phoebe. How are y'all doing this week?

We are hanging in there or at least trying too. It has been a rough few days emotionally but, what are you going to do. We roll with the punches and rely on God to do the rest.

We are hanging in there or at least trying too. It has been a rough few days emotionally but, what are you going to do. We roll with the punches and rely on God to do the rest.

:praise: Praise God for giving you strenght .

How are the kids now ?

they are okay. They really miss him but, we pray for him all the time.

they are okay. They really miss him but, we pray for him all the time.

That is good , with school they will be kept busy .

Now I just have to find a way to keep them busy in the summer time.

Now I just have to find a way to keep them busy in the summer time.

Will you be working ?

Yes, I have to try and find a camp for them

Do they do camps for two months over there ? here it is two weeks .

They have them but they are EXPENSIVE!!!

They have them but they are EXPENSIVE!!!

I can only imagine .Do you have a friend who is a SAHM who would care for them ?

No, all my friends work.

I will have to find something

No, all my friends work.

I will have to find something

You will , dont worry , im sure something will come up .

I will call some place on staten island and see what they are offering

They have them but they are EXPENSIVE!!!
What about the Fresh Air Fund? I heard Mariah Carey's advertisement on the radio for it. I was a FAF kid from ages 7 - 13. :)

I have never heard of them. I will look it up.

I never heard of it either , but then i live in Ireland :whatwacko: