Hello all. I'm hoping this doesn't seem silly but I am looking for other women who may have gone though what I am going through. For about 6 months now (or ever since my DS was old enough to really show a preference) my Son has shown a strong preference over everyone BUT me. My son goes to daycare during the day while my husband and I work. He is then picked up by my in-laws and goes to their house until about 6:30 when my husband and I pick him up and take him home. My son simply adores my husband, which I am thrilled about. My husband is a fantastic father and an amazing husband. We share the parenting equally. But I feel like my son prefers my his Daddy, Grandma and Grandpa over me. He SCREAMS when my husband leaves the room, even if I am still in the room with him. If I try to comfort him he pushes me away and screams harder. When we walk into my inlaws to pick him up it is all about Daddy. He immediately goes to Daddy and if I try to pick him up he pushes me away. He acts the same way around my MIL and FIL, preferring them over me as well. He even does this in public and it embarasses me because I wonder if people must think I am a bad mother and that's why my child doesn't want me. My husband and I spend equal amount of time with my son so I know that has nothing to do with it. It hurts so much to see my son reject me. We tried for 6 years to have a baby and I put my body through years of medications and treatments just to conceive. Then I was on bedrest during my pregnancy. I feel like I went through so much for him and it makes it hurt even more to see that I am on the bottom of his "list." Most of the mothers I talk to look at me like I am crazy when I try to share my situation with them. It seems that children mostly "prefer" their mother in these early years. I'm at a loss on what to do, how to get him to not reject me. I'm even more at a loss on how to NOT be hurt by this as I know he is only a baby and doesn't understand he is hurting me. Is there any other Mommy out there who has been through this? Any advice?

firstly i will say it wont last :)

do you have a bit off time in the evening where it is just you and him ?
my daughter was like this so ever evening i would take her in the garden and she would hold my hand and babytalk to me about the flowers or the swing .

I also tried to be consistent ,your husband picks him up every day ,your son knows he will come and there is a trust between him and daddy that every evening her will always pick him up so maybe you could get up with him in the morning and play with him in the bath or play with toys just you and him (you may already do that )

that may not help and im sure you will get great advice from the other moms on the forum .

babies do not always perfer mom , my daughter always wanted daddy ,she tells me she likes me now thou and she is 4 :laugh:

I agree with Lauren .. this WON"T last!!! :)

That must be really hard, but I hope that with time and maybe spending more time alone with him it will get better. :hug:

My first question is has this always gone on, or is it more recent? Like the others, I think it's a phase. My little girl has been through several 'favourite person' phases, and you can tell more when they are older and communicate more. For instance, at the moment, all she says all day long is 'PoppaPoppaPoppaPoppa....' and is head over heels mad for my father. If I see him she shoves out of my arms to play with him.
She also had a big phase of crying and saying 'Daddy' whenever I was forcing her to do something she didn't like, such as teeth-brushing, or bath time.
It has always passed, but for sure there are times I've felt really rejected!
Just wait a bit, soon enough they learn to be more affectionate, and nowadays I get lots of spontaneous kisses and cuddles instead of a shove in the face when I try to kiss her :D

My son is like this and he is 4. He prefers his dad over me. When we are all together it's like I don't exsist. But, when him and I are alone it is a different story. He loves on me,but that has only been the case in the last year.

It hurt me so as well but, it is a phase that is slowly passing.

:hug: i'm so sorry you are feeling hurt! I have to agree with others that it is just a phase that he will grow out of. Be patient with him & try to do fun things with your time with him. :praying: for you!