Hey everyone, we are really struggling with names for our 2nd little one at the moment, and I was wanting people's input.

To cut a long story short, my husband does not offer ANY suggestions, as in NONE. He has no preferred baby names, not in either pregnancy. So I will come up with names and he will veto them until he finds one that he 'doesn't hate' (his words). He has never wholeheartedly embraced a suggested name. Last time we had a boy's name picked out (I told him what i liked and told him to get used to it in the first few months. I was joking, but the name grew on him during the pregnancy.) A few weeks before Cass was born, we still had no name for a girl, so I wrote a list of around 30 names I could live with, some I really loved, and some I was blah about. He chose Cassandra, which I was pretty blah about, but it's grown on me.

So ANYWAY, this time we have a boy's name again, and no girl's name. I have a name for a girl that I really really cherish, and the few family members I have told it to love it, everyone does....except Stephen. All of you ladies probably know how a little girl grows up with baby names close to her heart, and how disappointing it is if your husband doesn't like them. So I am unsure what to do in this situation, because he STILL doesn't suggest any names of his own, and I am loathe to give him a list again, because darnit, I have the perfect little girl's name! So yesterday I told him my top three names for little girls, and that he could choose between them if he really really couldn't handle my favourite. He says he hates all three of them :whatwacko: What would you do at this point if you were me?

well, since he got to pick the first name, this one is up to you! JMO!

The name I have wanted to use since I was a little girl, my husband hates so even after 7 girls, we still haven't used it. What I have done is get really creative with names. Although we still don't have a girl name picked out for this pregnancy, I know that if it is a girl, God will provide us with a name that we both like. For me, the naming of a child should be something both parents agree on since both parents were a part of "making" the child. Of course, if the husband doesn't care, then by all means, let the mom do it! When push comes to shove, the husband is the head of the household and should make the final decision. I think if you tell him to just get used to it, then it might cause problems later.

I would just keep searching and praying about it. God will lead you to the perfect name! Besides, maybe the fact that you can't find a girl name means you are having a boy (that's what I keep telling myself!)!

Hey everyone, we are really struggling with names for our 2nd little one at the moment, and I was wanting people's input.

To cut a long story short, my husband does not offer ANY suggestions, as in NONE. He has no preferred baby names, not in either pregnancy. So I will come up with names and he will veto them until he finds one that he 'doesn't hate' (his words). He has never wholeheartedly embraced a suggested name. Last time we had a boy's name picked out (I told him what i liked and told him to get used to it in the first few months. I was joking, but the name grew on him during the pregnancy.) A few weeks before Cass was born, we still had no name for a girl, so I wrote a list of around 30 names I could live with, some I really loved, and some I was blah about. He chose Cassandra, which I was pretty blah about, but it's grown on me.

So ANYWAY, this time we have a boy's name again, and no girl's name. I have a name for a girl that I really really cherish, and the few family members I have told it to love it, everyone does....except Stephen. All of you ladies probably know how a little girl grows up with baby names close to her heart, and how disappointing it is if your husband doesn't like them. So I am unsure what to do in this situation, because he STILL doesn't suggest any names of his own, and I am loathe to give him a list again, because darnit, I have the perfect little girl's name! So yesterday I told him my top three names for little girls, and that he could choose between them if he really really couldn't handle my favourite. He says he hates all three of them :whatwacko: What would you do at this point if you were me?


My dh and I decided that he chose the names for the boys and I for the girl.
We run the list past each other and so far we have liked what we have choosen.

Alyssa Brianne
Isaiah Daniel

For the 3rd one we are still waiting to find out if we are preggers but, have names picked out and we love them

Thanks for you input! My current approach is say and do nothing about it, letting him know that the ball is in his court to take an interest while he has time. If he doesn't get involved by the time bubby is born, I'll take that as permission to name the baby myself. That still feels to me like I'm manipulating him, but I haven't got another plan yet.

I am sure you are doing this already but you can pray that the Lord will revival to him a name for the baby.

I have a name for a girl that I really really cherish, and the few family members I have told it to love it, everyone does....except Stephen. All of you ladies probably know how a little girl grows up with baby names close to her heart, and how disappointing it is if your husband doesn't like them.

I was in the same situation with my Hubby however he changed his mind and now LOVES the name I had been hoping for, that would be great except now I'm not so sure about it!!! This is a name I've loved since 10th grade, and that is a long time ago! I really think this one is could be a boy and since we have a name picked for a boy I just hope it isn't going to matter. I agree with the last poster who said to pray that your hubby will have a name revealled to him. (sorry I'm not sure if you Husband is a believer, but have you suggested he pray about it?)

Yes to Phoebe and Bugsmom :) I am however, not the most patient person in the world! Working on it!

My mom is a NICU nurse and was just sharing some names she's seen recently.
(Count your blessings!:)
N8than
La-ia (The nurse asked how to pronounce it and was told with urban attitude "Ladashia" Of course, algebraically is Li)
LOTS of Caden, Jayden, and Brayden.
Most recent Caden's last name is Cone.

If we are having a boy we are naming him Jayden and if it is a girl Sarai

I was just in your neck of the woods ( so to speak) we just welcomed a baby boy to our family and for 9 months the name thing was a battle. We have a daughter who is 2 and had no problems coming up with her name, our only battle there was that I wanted to give her two middle names and my husband didn't want to do that.
My daughter's name is Loralei and I wanted to name our son Levi because it was different and I thought it went well with my daughter's name. However, my husband thought it was weird, people made stupid comments like can we call him 501? I would answer with, I was naming him after the Levi in the Bible, oh they would say. In the end, we nixed Levi because too many people associated it with Jeans or with Sarah Palin's Daughter's looser boyfriend.
I bought a 100,00+1 baby names book and highlighted what I liked, came up with lists and when I would say a name to my husband he would say yes or no. Then I handed him the book and told him to come up with a list of ten names he liked. This helped a lot. I didn't feel like everything I came up with was being rejected.
Your situation sounds a little different. He seems to say I don't care, but then he must care since he has an opinion on whatever you came up with. If he truly didn't care then he wouldn't care what name you picked. I think you should tell him how frustrating it is to come up with names only to have them vetoed by someone who isn't contributing their own suggestions. Encourage him to come up with is own list and try working from there.
I had always thought the son had to have daddy's first name as his middle name and once I got rid of that notion ( because my husband didn't care) it was easier. We loved the name Benjamin and my husband is a James which would have made him Benjamin James or BJ and that we didn't want. Once, like I said we worked around not using my husband's name as the middle name it was so much easier. I think it was in my 8 th month that we came up with Benjamin Matthew. We both liked Benjamin and Matthew was on our list as a possibility. Matthew had been the top name in Massachusetts the previous year and I didn't want his first name to be Matthew on account of that reason, but Matthew means Gift from God and I thought that was so appropriate considering he was a BIG surprise. It was a long road but we got there eventually. God luck to you guys.

P.S. here is a list of names that will make you feel better about whatever you decide.
ABCD- my friend who is a paramedic in Oakland CA answered a call one night for a kid with this name. She had asked the grandmother for the name and it's pronounced ab-sah-dee. My friend said how do you spell that and the grandmother looked at her and said " fool, where'd you go to school? absahdee A,B,C,D..

Yohyness-someone named their son this as in Your Highness

Towa- a girl had this name and when the mother was asked where she got it, the answer was " because she was conceived under the Sears Tower ( towa is tower pronounced with a Boston Accent)

Daddy Felix- my mom had a kid in her class last year named this.

I love baby names, let us know what you decide. Good Luck

Oh my, there are some really awful baby names out there! Poor kids.

As for Stephen and I, we're still at an impasse :)
We now have 3 boys names, that we are evenly happy with, which concerns me, because I don't like having too much choice, and we are planning to see what happens 'on the day' and choose a name for a boy after he is born, but I don't want to make the wrong decision and feel like I should have chosen one of the other names. For the record, they are Ezra, Elisha (but he would just be called Eli) and Daniel. The middle name is already chosen: James, as it is Stephen's middle name and goes through all the men in his family.
I like Eli and Ezra slightly more than Daniel, but feel like it might be kinder to give a boy a more 'normal' name like Daniel. Not sure.

As for girl's, this is where Stephen really struggles I think. He does care what name we choose, and wants it to be one he likes, but the problem is he doesn't like ANYTHING it seems. I too read an entire baby name book (several actually, but the one I read most recently was HUGE and I wrote down every single name I'd happily call a daughter.) I think there were about 30 names on it. The only name he liked on it was one that I wrote down because I liked the meaning, not the name itself, but forgot to write that note next to the name. He suggested one name last time, and still likes it (Kiri), but I don't, because it isn't a real name, as in, it has no origins or meaning, which doesn't sit well with me.

My top girl's name is Joelle Mercy. Joelle means 'God is willing', and I'd probably call her Jo. (I loved Little Women as a girl :)) My plan is for all of our girl's to have a middle name that is one of the characteristics of God. (Cass' middle name is Grace). Stephen doesn't mind Mercy, but he doesn't like Joelle.

He still is not interested in talking about names, because he feels like it's a dead-end conversation, and I think he's decided that the baby is a boy, so he doesn't have to think of girls names :) In which case, if bub is a girl, I've told him I'll name her myself unless he cracks a baby name book soon.

By the way Phoebe, I love those names, and slightly envy that you guys have them picked out already!

As for girl's, this is where Stephen really struggles I think. He does care what name we choose, and wants it to be one he likes, but the problem is he doesn't like ANYTHING it seems. I too read an entire baby name book (several actually, but the one I read most recently was HUGE and I wrote down every single name I'd happily call a daughter.) I think there were about 30 names on it. The only name he liked on it was one that I wrote down because I liked the meaning, not the name itself, but forgot to write that note next to the name. He suggested one name last time, and still likes it (Kiri), but I don't, because it isn't a real name, as in, it has no origins or meaning, which doesn't sit well with me.

My top girl's name is Joelle Mercy. Joelle means 'God is willing', and I'd probably call her Jo. (I loved Little Women as a girl :)) My plan is for all of our girl's to have a middle name that is one of the characteristics of God. (Cass' middle name is Grace). Stephen doesn't mind Mercy, but he doesn't like Joelle.



Kiri is a form of Kira which means sun or light. I actually really like Kira; I'm not sure of Kiri.

Joelle's a lovely name! Maybe Kiri's a Maori name. Heard of Kiri te Kanawa, the opera singer? Hope you can agree on a name in the end! By the way, I'm married to a Stephen James as well and my brother is also one - but in both cases James is their father's first name!

Hmm...the only place I could find Kiri said that it was Japanese, but had no meaning. Even so, I'm not the biggest fan :)

Not sure if this will help, but our babies name is going to be Elia Ann. Elia is hebrew for "the Lord is my God" or "the Lord is God". It's pronounced L-E-ah. Any who, good luck and I hope all works out!

Please feel free to use them if you wish!

Jayden means he have prayed for you
Sarai is princess in Hebrew.

If we are having a boy we are naming him Jayden and if it is a girl Sarai

Those are great names .I love the name Elijah but i will need a boy :laugh:
Love the name Madeline and Isabella too .

I like Isabella as well.

Madison

If this baby was a girl it was going to be Sarai Madison

Stephen told me over the Christmas period that he is happy to name a girl Joelle :) He said that because he didn't have a favourite girl's name, and because I loved it so much he wanted to call a girl Joelle. :D Plus the name has grown on him over time.
So we have all of our ducks in a row :) Elisha or Daniel for a boy (we are praying that God will help us 'know' which one is right if we have a boy, as we like them equally.) or Joelle if it's a girl :) I am so excited either way :D

If we are having a boy we are naming him Jayden and if it is a girl Sarai

How is Sarai pronounced? During my church's study of Genesis recently, my pastor pronounced is sar-ee-i. Is this correct? How will you be pronouncing it?

Stephen told me over the Christmas period that he is happy to name a girl Joelle :) He said that because he didn't have a favourite girl's name, and because I loved it so much he wanted to call a girl Joelle. :D Plus the name has grown on him over time.
So we have all of our ducks in a row :) Elisha or Daniel for a boy (we are praying that God will help us 'know' which one is right if we have a boy, as we like them equally.) or Joelle if it's a girl :) I am so excited either way :D

That is a beautiful name :thumbs:

Oh, are we sharing names? :) We're thinking Zane for a boy and Natalie for a girl.

Stephen told me over the Christmas period that he is happy to name a girl Joelle :) He said that because he didn't have a favourite girl's name, and because I loved it so much he wanted to call a girl Joelle. :D Plus the name has grown on him over time.
So we have all of our ducks in a row :) Elisha or Daniel for a boy (we are praying that God will help us 'know' which one is right if we have a boy, as we like them equally.) or Joelle if it's a girl :) I am so excited either way :D

So glad you guys have come to an agreement on names for your newest addition! I love the names you have picked out! :)

So glad you guys have come to an agreement on names for your newest addition! I love the names you have picked out! :)

Thanks! I am starting to get really excited, like a kid who knows Christmas is around the corner.

Oh, are we sharing names? :) We're thinking Zane for a boy and Natalie for a girl.

Natalie is a beautiful name too , it is soo hard to pick one name and stick to it ,there are so many graet names in the bible .

Thanks! I am starting to get really excited, like a kid who knows Christmas is around the corner.

:) It definitely is an exciting time!!

Thanks! I am starting to get really excited, like a kid who knows Christmas is around the corner.

Awesome, so glad to hear that. It is a beautiful name.

How is Sarai pronounced? During my church's study of Genesis recently, my pastor pronounced is sar-ee-i. Is this correct? How will you be pronouncing it?

We pronounce it:

Sa-rye

We pronounce it:

Sa-rye

oh ok, I like that pronounciation better.

We love the fact that it means Princess

We love the fact that it means Princess

Yeah that's cute!!! :)

Stephen told me over the Christmas period that he is happy to name a girl Joelle :) He said that because he didn't have a favourite girl's name, and because I loved it so much he wanted to call a girl Joelle. :D Plus the name has grown on him over time.
So we have all of our ducks in a row :) Elisha or Daniel for a boy (we are praying that God will help us 'know' which one is right if we have a boy, as we like them equally.) or Joelle if it's a girl :) I am so excited either way :D

great names! maybe for the boy you could use one of the names as a middle name..like Daniel Elisha :)

I love the name Daniel it is my son's middle name:

Isaiah Daniel

great names! maybe for the boy you could use one of the names as a middle name..like Daniel Elisha :)

Oh, I might not have mentioned, we'd already agreed on middle names from quite some time ago. Mercy for a girl, James for a boy. (James being Stephen's middle name, and the middle name of his father and his father's father etc etc.)

Love the baby names:) Glad things worked out!

Oh, I might not have mentioned, we'd already agreed on middle names from quite some time ago. Mercy for a girl, James for a boy. (James being Stephen's middle name, and the middle name of his father and his father's father etc etc.)

oh that's too funny! My second son's name is Stephen James!! LOL (he was named after his two grandpa's)

oh that's too funny! My second son's name is Stephen James!! LOL (he was named after his two grandpa's)

Yes, we have met quite a few Stephen James'!! I even met a Lauren the other day who was also married to a Stephen James :) We also have a common last name, and my high school friends were all amused when I got married, because my first boyfriend in high school was named James with the same surname as my husband :)

Yes, we have met quite a few Stephen James'!! I even met a Lauren the other day who was also married to a Stephen James :) We also have a common last name, and my high school friends were all amused when I got married, because my first boyfriend in high school was named James with the same surname as my husband :)

:D..

Yes, we have met quite a few Stephen James'!! I even met a Lauren the other day who was also married to a Stephen James :) We also have a common last name, and my high school friends were all amused when I got married, because my first boyfriend in high school was named James with the same surname as my husband :)

:laugh::laugh: